What is the best way to educate kids not to ask for things while crying?
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Before I had children ( I now have boy/girl twins age 8) I was in a store and her a little girl (possibly 4) say to her father "But Daddy I want it!" I was totally prepared for a Veruca Salt moment with the added bonus of tears and screaming.
But what happened created a paradigm shift in how I would forever handle future requests.
The father said "well, I can see it means a great deal to you right now. It is very pretty. Is it something you would like to add to your Wish List?"
I watched the father a)validate he heard her request b) validate why it was important to her and c) provide her an option that would allow her to let go of her immediate need.
I watched it work. "Oh yes please!" the little girl said. The toy was put down and they walked away.
When my own children began to ask for things, this worked wonderfully. To this day we still have a "Wishell List" (that's how they pronounced it from 3 years old. I have never had a tantrum and when they became a bit older and it was very very important they would ask to keep a written list for a birthday or Santa. It has never really had more than 2 items.
I truly owe a great deal to that father.
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